Hello Divas and welcome to our continued walk through the book and bible study, Unglued by Lysa Terkeurst. In chapter 10, Lysa talks about negative inside chatter. When I read the title of the chapter, I knew this chapter was for me. I am the QUEEN of MEAN in my head. I talk to myself in ways that I would never allow someone else to talk to me. My inner mean-girl is a bully!
It only takes an honest mistake, a quick comparison, or some criticism from someone else to push me over into a toxic thought wasteland. A toxic thought wasteland is not a good place to be because it is so full of negativity and lies, there is no room for truth.
I don’t know about y’all but when I get negative, an “unglued moment” is most likely on the horizon. It is hard for me to see the good side of ANY situation when my inner mean girl starts yakking at me. In the book, Lysa suggested that negative thoughts actually shift our endocrine system to focus on protection which limits our ability to think with wisdom or to develop healthy thoughts. Wow.
In Philippians 4:6-8, the apostle Paul advised the following:
Do not be anxious about anything, but in every situation, by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, present your requests to God. And the peace of God, which transcends all understanding,will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus. Finally, brothers and sisters, whatever is true, whatever is noble, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is admirable—if anything is excellent or praiseworthy—think about such things.
Switching my thoughts to something pure and lovely is hard for me in the moment.
Lysa gave three questions that we should ask ourselves when we feel negative self chatter begin:
1. Did someone actually say this or am I making assumptions about that they are thinking? OOOH I need this. I will read body language or a look and make it into an entire soap opera drama in my mind.
2. Am I actively immersing myself in truth? Here is that truth word again! Often when I get negative, I also start awfullizing. “This will NEVER get any better”. I am going to be stuck on this job FOREVER”. Test taking skills teach us, nothing is always, forever or NEVER.
3. Are there situations or relationships that feed my insecurities? You just have to handle some folks with a long handle spoon. It is just too exhausting to be their friend.
Being intentional about our thoughts helps us think clearly and be free enough to pour out love on other people. Quieting negative inside chatter can also allow us the freedom to obey God’s call on our lives. Ohhh weee.
How many of you have a dream that you know is ordained by God but you have not acted on it because you are: too broke, too fat, too old, too young, not married, married, a mom……
Make sure to have chapters 9 & 10 read for our bible study discussion on this Saturday!