Let It Go and Dance!

 

Hola Divas! It is hump day…whop whop!  The best part of Wednesday is that I get to spend it with my Divas dancing during our Wednesday night fitness classes!  I must be honest with you girls, I have really been struggling for the past couple of weeks.  I came down with the worst stomach bug of my life with abdominal pains that were very reminiscent of contractions.  Luckily, it was only a 24 hour bug, but it left me fatigued for over a week:(  Couple that with a traveling husband (so I have practically been a single mom), starting a new job, and teaching class and you have a recipe for….blah. 

We are in the process of finishing our Let It Go bible study by Karen Ehman. I have enjoyed the study but I must admit, life has gotten in the way of me really taking the time to read and complete our in-between sessions.  Yeessssssss, even the teacher gets behind on the lessons;).  In talking to one of our bible study ladies about the study, she mentioned some truths on page 193.  I read them and thought…that’s nice.

Well, I re-read them this morning and thought…. AMEN.  Here they are:

First we have to let go of control and grab hold on to our faith……It’s God’s job to grow our careers or our families or our home business–if he wishes.  It’s his job to orchestrate the details.  It’s our job to watch them fall into place and then move when and where he tells us….Our job is obedience.  God’s job is results.”  WOW

Are you feeling “blah” with where you are right now or with a certain situation?

Stop fighting the never-ending battle of trying to control everything or wishing things were different by simply dancing right where you are.

If you see me on highway 311 this morning, I WILL be car dancing:)

Won’t you cut some music on with me and dance?

Domestic Diva-Let.It.Go Bible Study

woman cleaningHello Divas! We are progressing quite well through our Let. It. Go. Bible Study. During our time together last week, we watched the video teaching from Karen Ehman and had a great discussion of the Proverbs 31 Woman. When I say great discussion, I mean it. We laughed, cried, and had so much fun together growing closer to The Lord.

Today, I am linking up with Melissa Taylor’s online bible study of the book Let.It.Go! Melissa provided several blog post prompts for what we are currently studying. Here is the one I chose:

Domestic Diva. Not everyone feels very domestic when it comes to keeping our home in order but our reflection verse reminds us that we don’t do everything. Instead, we take charge of managing our home. How does this verse change your perspective of joyfully taking care of the home front?  She watches over the activities of her household ~ Proverbs 31:27 HCSB

One of the questions from the Let.IT.Go. study guide asked each cluster group to come up with a first name for the “Proverbs 31” woman. We had a blast with this. One group named her She-ra and another named her Wonder Woman. I think the all around favorite was Enjoli.

I soooooooo remember the Enjoli Perfume commercials from the eighties. The Enjoli lady, brought home the bacon, fried up in a pan, and never let her husband forget he was a man. She was the twenty-four hour woman. The Enjoli woman did it all seemingly better and faster simply because she was a WOMAN. (I am sure splashing her self with Enjoli perfume gave her superpowers! LOL!)

If you cannot see the video click HERE

At first glance, Ms. Enjoli and the Proverbs 31 woman look very similar. However, there is one MAJOR difference: The Proverbs 31 Woman was a Domestic Diva but unlike Mrs. Enjoli, she did NOT do everything herself! Scriptures teach us that the Proverbs 31 Woman had servants (verse 31:15).

Plop, plop, fizz, fizz oh what a relief is it to know that the woman most people look to as the standard for how women should be did not do it all ALONE! The Proverbs 31 woman was a true manager. She put plans and routines in place and then delegated the tasks that did not absolutely require HER to do them.

On page 118 Karen said something so profound I had to close the book and walk away: Often, we become flustered with our families and want them to “get with the program!” while the crux of the quandary is that there is no program in place to get with except for the expectations in our own heads!” OUCH!!!

Studying Proverbs 31:27 (She watches over the activities of her household), helps to change my perspective from being a martyr who has a lot of expectations of her family that are NOT clearly communicated so she yells out of frustration– to a COO (Chief Operating Officer).

A good COO does not attempt to do everything. The things that someone else can do, an effective COO allows other people to do them AND clearly communicates what is expected. Not only does an effective COO allow others to complete tasks, they are open to different ways to get things done and they do NOT micromanage.

Let It Go and move from martyr to COO!

Homework:  Read chapters 5-6 and complete the “Between Sessions” in the Study Guide.

Are you in the Kernersville, NC area?  If so, join us for class or bible study!  Check out our calendar HERE.

Let It Go Girl!

imageHello Divas! Today I am participating in a blog hop on Melissa Taylor’s blog! Melissa hosts online bible studies and is currently hosting an online bible study of the book Let. IT. Go! Isn’t that so cool? Right along with us, there are thousands of women all over the world learning how to LET. IT. GO.!

Each week, Melissa provides blog post topics from the book. One of the topics for today is to write a prayer inspired by a wonderful truth Karen wrote on page 54 of the book:

When we willingly accept our lot in life, welcoming all that God is trying to teach us through it, we lose the drive to over control, to micromanage in an all-out attempt to appear perfect and ensure everything in our lives is “just so”.

Divas, if anyone needs to remind herself of this truth it is me. As much as I feel alone sometimes in trying to navigate life while wearing all the different hats that I wear, I suspect I am not really alone. I bet willingly accepting and welcoming all that God has to teach us sounds glorious to you too. Lord give us the strength! Here is my prayer today:

Dear God,

Thank you so much for another day. Your ways are truly above my ways. You are all-knowing, all-powerful and gracious. Oh Father, help me with my “want to” on willingly accepting where I am in life right at this very minute. Although I know you are ultimately in control, I keep manipulating and agonizing over trivial things to make what I want happen. Forgive me.

My futile attempts at getting and keeping everything “just-so” are exhausting. As I exhale, may your presence energize me. Today, I choose to be thankful for what you have done and are doing in my life and I am trusting you to navigate me towards my best. Today, I choose to LET. IT. GO!

Amen

But those who hope in the LORD will renew their strength. They will soar on wings like eagles; they will run and not grow weary, they will walk and not be faint. – Isaiah 40:31

Homework for this week:  Read through chapter 4, complete the session 2 “between-session” study guide questions.

If you are in the Kernersville, NC area, join us for our Let. IT. GO. bible study this Saturday 8:30am -9:15am (just before class).

Did God Really Say?-Let It Go Bible Study

Now the serpent was more crafty than any of the wild animals the Lord God had made. He said to the woman, “Did God really say, ‘You must not eat from any tree in the garden’?”-Genesis 3:1 (NIV84)

“Did God really, say? Are you sure you can’t have just a little? Don’t YOU deserve to be happy too? YOLO (You only live once)” Ahh yes, doubt, Satan’s 2000 year old tried and true way for us to get off the path God has set for us.  It worked on Eve all those years ago and unfortunately, it still works on us today. 

Just by asking her the question “Did God really say?”, Satan was actually able to convince Eve that SHE knew better than God.  In Genesis 3:2-3 Eve explains to Satan how God said that if they ate from the tree in the middle of the garden, they would die.

To her explanation, Satan emphatically tells Eve “You won’t die”.  Then basically says the following….[Not only will you not die but you will be like God and know everything.] So, Eve fell for it and she ate. Eve heard God say if they ate from that tree they would die. Period.  There was no need to question or offer a lengthy explanation because the Great I AM said so and she heard HIM. 

Many theologians say pride was what caused Eve to be tricked.  I think pride was part of the issue but the other part of the issue was a lack of faith and ingratitude.

In session one, we jokingly laughed about Eve having the perfect life.  She didn’t have any stretch marks, she didn’t have to work or cook and her man thought she was perfect…there were NO OTHER women to compare her too.  Yet even with perfection, Satan was able to convince Eve that she needed more. 

All Eve needed to do was believe what God said, thank Him for all the other trees she could eat from, and trust Him for her best.

Divas, it is time to stop plotting, planning, strategizing and manipulating.  All we need to do is believe what God says, thank Him for our many blessings, and trust Him for our best. 

Homework:
Read in the book Let. It. Go through chapter 4.
Complete the “Session 1 between session” home study questions.
Review the last two pages of chapter 3 “A Selfishness Switch-er-oo”.

Wanna join us?  Go HERE for our Calendar!

Let. It. Go.

Hello Divas! I hope your weeks are going well.  We started our newest Bible Study, Let. It. Go. by Karen Ehman on last Saturday, January 19, 2013.  No worries if you missed the first session, just follow our posts on the blog for homework and discussions.  Then join us on Saturday February 2, 2012 for session two!

As many of you know, I am the mom to two beautiful girls, Aryonna(11) and Anaiya (8).  This age group is affectionately called the tween era.  Meaning they are be-tween being a child and a teenager.  It also means that many mamas think they are losing their minds during this time.  Mamas like me feel like they are losing it because there is a real POWER struggle going on.  Yep, my girls want to control their own lives…ready or not!

But this struggle for control is not just with tweens, it is with adult women as well.  Just like my daughters, life tells us no, not now or something bad happens and we fly into full CONTROL FREAK mode.

Most women are VERY resourceful.  One thing that came up during our discussion is that other people know we are “git-er-done” kind of girls so they ask us to manage a lot of things and then get upset when we TAKE OVER!

I just love the way Karen summed up our tendency to control:

“A competent woman can run a bang-up PTA bake sale or plan a fabulous family reunion.  She can juggle home, school, professional life, and church duties with downright riveting results…..The problem lies with our failure to know  where to draw the line, to differentiate between leading and bossing, to know difference between simply taking charge and ultimately taking over.” OUCH!

Being controlling does not always mean being loud and forcing our own way.  Often, we control by being a martyr, enabling others to keep the peace, and manipulating others by always saying yes thereby guilting them to say yes to us. (After all we have done for them!!)

No matter how we manage to get things to go as we want, our controlling ways are exhausting AND at their root, are basic doubt in God’s provision and will.

Nehemiah 8:10 teaches us, the joy of the Lord is our strength“.

Divas, join our newest bible study and  learn some practical biblical tips to…….Let. It. Go.

Stop running the show and start walking in faith!

Our next time “in person” will be on February 2, 2013 8:30am just before class.  You can follow along with us online if you cannot make it to class. Let. It. Go. can be purchased on Amazon.  Homework before the next study is to read chapters 1-3 and complete the session 1 “Between-Sessions Personal Study”.