Five Minute Friday-Roots

Five Minute FridayEvery Friday, Lisa Jo Baker hosts a blog link up called Five Minute Fridays (FMF). She provides a word prompt and then participants are to set their timers for five minutes and write until the timer goes off.  I am so thankful that I found Five Minute Fridays!  FMF gives me an opportunity to just “freestyle”! Many of you have told me that you really enjoy reading the FMF posts!  The word for today is ROOTS. Happy Friday Divas and here goes:

Most often when we think about our ROOTS, we think of our family or where we are from.  Now when I think about ROOTS, it is time to do something about these wiry gray hairs!  Sometimes we think of relationships in terms of what they are ROOTed in:  love, respect, service, or familiarity. 

There is an old quote that says: “Storms make oaks take ROOTS“.   Wow, how true.   It really is the storms in our lives that push us to take ROOT and learn to yield control of our lives to God.   As with the victims of Hurricane Sandy, sometimes our ROOTS are physically and emotionally torn apart. 

From the prayers put in our prayer box each week, many Divas are going through all kinds of storms (awesome things like pregnancy to very challenging things like cancer and death).  With all that is going on, one would think it would be easier NOT to try to fit class into your schedule. 

However, as WE dance together, we encourage each other.  After class we hug each other and wish each other well and in doing so, we add a little fertilizer to each Diva’s ROOTS

We leave refreshed and with a reminder that our God is not Dead but surely alive living on the inside of us roaring like a Lion! Talk about DEEP ROOTS!

After Class on Halloween

Join us tomorrow Saturday November 3, 2012 8:30am for our Unglued Bible Study!

Stay for class and Enjoy Soulful Saturday 9:30am-11:00am


All about Perspective-Unglued Bible Study Chapter 8

Hello Divas! It is hard to believe that we are already on Chapter 8 of the book Unglued by Lysa Terkeurst. Prior to chapter eight, we have worked on identifying our “unglued” tendencies and learning how to properly process our emotions.  Chapter eight deals with the “glue” that holds identifying and properly processing together—PERSPECTIVE.

I found a definition of perspective that made my jaw drop:  The ability to perceive things in their actual interrelations or comparative importance—WOW. 

In the book, Lysa shared a story about how her daughters used to argue over paper placements when they were out to dinner.  We all know how this goes, some one spills water or writes on the other’s placement and bam…whines, screams, and drama over a PAPER PLACEMAT! Seriously???

Cough, gag, ok …that example was VERY close to home for me.  But really, children tend to come unglued about very small things.  Have you ever watched a child melt over not getting something they really wanted or over another child not sharing?

What about us?  Do the things that cause us to come unglued DAILY really matter in the grand scheme of things?  Ok, lets say DO matter.  Can we find ANYTHING to be thankful for and then be gentle in our response?

At the beginning of chapter eight, Lysa stated: “Perspective calls forth a gentleness I can’t seem to find any other way”.  This is so true.  When you mentally grasp that things could really be MUCH worse and you have SO MUCH TO BE THANKFUL for, you display a more gentle nature. 

Have you ever spoken to someone right when they return from a mission trip?  They get it!  Perhaps we need to seek out some serving activities like:  serving in a soup kitchen, going on a mission trip, or helping a family in need to help us gain some perspective.

The Key verse for the entire chapter was Philippians 4:4-5: Rejoice in the Lord always. I will say it again: Rejoice!  Let your gentleness be evident to all. The Lord is near.

In other words:

Find some reason to be thankful regardless of what is going on. Smile and don’t miss the chance to rejoice!  Gain some perspective over your situation then quiet and settle your mind so that you can respond to EVERYONE (not just the people who are nice to you) with gentleness (a sweet temper that is the result of joy in the LORD).

I think in all the times I have read Philippians 4:5, I totally missed the “The Lord is near” part. When we are able to gain some godly perspective, we realize that God IS near.  In fact, He has been here all the time! He has been making a way out of no way for eons.

Have chapters 7 & 8 read for our discussion on Saturday!


Five Minute Friday-Voice

Five Minute FridayEvery Friday, Lisa Jo Baker hosts a blog link up called Five Minute Fridays (FMF). She provides a word prompt and then participants are to set their timers for five minutes and write until the timer goes off.  I am so thankful that I found Five Minute Fridays!  FMF gives me an opportunity to just “freestyle”! Many of you have told me that you really enjoy reading the FMF posts!  The word for today is VOICE. Happy Friday Divas and here goes:

The VOICE is one to those things we rarely think about.  Our VOICE is one of the ways we use to communicate, to speak our mind, to make our requests known.  For all of the divas from the south out there, it is our VOICE with our southern drawl that let’s everyone know that we are country girls!

I have found that our fitness classes have provided a VOICE for many women.  Ladies come to class with the weight of the world and they squat, punch, and salsa all over their problems.  If only for a moment, they are able to step away from “the drama”. 

Some people have one of “those VOICES”; the kind that you recognize without seeing them.  Yet others have VOICEs so soft that we have to listen really intently to hear them.  For me, God’s VOICE is often like that.  When my life gets busy and the to-do list gets longer, I find it hard to hear Him.

In class, we always cool down with a song of worship.  One of my favorites is Laura Cooksey’s song, REST.  Based on Matthew 11:28, the song reminds us to go to God with our burdens.   Last night when we cooled down to REST, it was amazing to watch you all worship our great GOD.  I glanced over and saw one lady with her arms stretched to the Lord, her eyes were closed and her head was tilted back… right then I felt God’s VOICE remind me that HE is in control.

Don’t forget to join us tomorrow for a FREE Class (Mix of Devoted Fitness and ZUMBA)

Unglued Bible Study- Procedure Manual

Hello Divas and welcome to our discussion on Chapter 7 of the book Unglued by Lysa Terkeurst.

In this chapter entitled, “I need a Procedure Manual”, we learn a policy, a mechanism, or a process to follow EVERY TIME we feel ourselves coming unglued. 

In the book, Lysa refers us to 2 Chronicles 20 to observe a man named Jehoshaphat who had an “Unglued Procedure Manual” . 

When the chapter begins, we find out that Jehoshaphat is about to be attacked:

2 Chronicles 20:1-2 (NKJV)…the people of Moab with the people of Ammon, and others with them besides the Ammonites, came to battle against Jehoshaphat.  Then some came and told Jehoshaphat, saying, “A great multitude is coming against you from beyond the sea”….

Upon hearing that a huge army was coming to wage war against him, Jehoshaphat, like any of us given his situation, just might come Unglued.


 Alarmed, Jehoshaphat resolved to inquire of the LORD, and he proclaimed a fast for all Judah. 2 Chronicles 20:3– (NIV 1984)

Jehoshaphat felt alarmed, then he resolved to seek guidance from God.  In the book, Lysa challenges us to also be “resolved to remember who we are”.

 For we have no power to face this vast army that is attacking us. We do not know what to do, but our eyes are upon you. 2 Chronicles 20:12

Jehoshaphat realized that he was not equipped to fight the battle. So, he kept his eyes on God.

…And God answered:

 You will not have to fight this battle. Take up your positions; stand firm and see the deliverance the Lord will give you, O Judah and Jerusalem. Do not be afraid; do not be discouraged. Go out to face them tomorrow, and the Lord will be with you” 2 Chronicles 20:17

God told Jehoshaphat to keep his head up, go on do the hard thing and know that HE would be with him all the way.

 After consulting the people, Jehoshaphat appointed men to sing to the LORD and to praise him for the splendor of his holiness as they went out at the head of the army, saying: “Give thanks to the LORD, for his love endures forever.”  2 Chronicles 20:21

Jehoshaphat thanked God for what He did and for what He was going to do.

And the kingdom of Jehoshaphat was at peace, for his God had given him rest on every side. 2 Chronicles 20:30
Jehoshaphat found peace by honoring God with his actions and reactions.
The following statement by Lysa made me stop in my tracks:  “My reactions determine my reach”.
Lysa ended the chapter by challenging us to use the example of Jehoshaphat to train our minds when we feel “unglued” coming on.  Here is my personalized Unglued Procedure Manual:
1.  Remember who I am.
2. Seek God’s Guidance
3. Allow God to fight the battle.
4.  Have an attitude of gratitude.

 How can you use Jehoshaphat’s example to personalize your own Procedure Manual?

Homework:  Read chapters 7 and 8

Five Minute Friday-Look

Five Minute FridayEvery Friday, Lisa Jo Baker hosts a blog link up called Five Minute Fridays (FMF). She provides a word prompt and then participants are to set their timers for five minutes and write until the timer goes off.  I am so thankful that I found Five Minute Fridays!  FMF gives me an opportunity to just “freestyle”! Many of you have told me that you really enjoy reading the FMF posts!  The word for today is LOOK. Happy Friday Divas and here goes:

Each week, I get the grand opportunity to step out onto my physical and spiritual platform of a stage and lead a sea of beautiful women each week in class.  I LOOK out into each of your eyes and just melt.  When the music is on, you sing along and move with out a care in the world.

When new Divas come to class, I hear some of you telling the newbies… “Just LOOK at her (meaning me) and you will be fine”.  What an amazing place God has placed me!

It is fun to LOOK up at the beginning of class and see y’all hugging and laughing.  I think the best part of it all is at the beginning of class when we get a neighbor and LOOK her in the eye and say: “NO MATTER HOW HARD YOU TRY, YOU CANNOT LOOK LIKE ME”.

There are NO comparisons in class, wish we could be like that in real life. 

God has designed each of us to LOOK differently.  We all have something wonderful to give to the world. 

My favorite line from the movie Avatar is “I See You”. 

Sometimes we get so busy LOOKing that we don’t see. 

God sees you and He loves you.

Don’t forget to wear PINK tomorrow for class! We will be dancing “princess style” in honor of Addison Simmons tomorrow!  See the details HERE.  Also don’t forget to come on out to bible study with us tomorrow… Unglued by Lysa Terkeurst!

Five Minute Friday-RACE

Five Minute FridayEvery Friday, Lisa Jo Baker hosts a blog link up called Five Minute Fridays. She provides a word prompt and then participants are to set their timers for five minutes and write until the timer goes off. The word for today is RACE. Happy Friday Divas and here goes:

Life seems to happen quickly.  Ladies RACE into class with only a few minutes to spare with the grimace of a long day on their faces.  It is so refreshing to watch some of our Divas take a deep exhalation breath when they get in place and start dancing.

Although our class is face paced, we are NOT in a RACE.  We come together to sweat, to get a great work out and to get our “happy” by encouraging each other.  We RACE outside of the four walls of the Kernersville Parks and Recreation Gym.  When we come to class,  it is time to refuel.

More times than I can remember, I have come to class weary from my own life RACE and leave with a little more pep in my step.  I just love our cool down song, REST by Laura Cooksey.  The song just reminds us to take all the things that make us so tired on our RACE to the ONE who can handle EVERYTHING!

Matthew 11:28 Come to me, all you who are weary and burdened, and I will give you rest.

Take a little break from your RACE today and stretch with us: (Warning–the video is a little wobbly but God is doing amazing things in the hearts of the women in our class–wobbly videos and all!)

(click HERE if you cannot see the video)

The Exploders-Unglued Bible Study Chapter 5

Welcome to our continued discussion on our Unglued Bible Study written by Lysa Terkeurst.  In chapter 4, we learned about the different ways we come unglued:  we either explode or stuff.  Chapter 5 is all about Exploders!

Perhaps it is just me but I tend to come COMPLETELY UNGLUED with my family.  As much as I love my girls and would take a bullet for them, those two can really push my buttons! The morning shuffle, homework, and picking up after themselves are our largest “mommy-comes-unglued” triggers.

When I say Mommy-comes-unglued.  I don’t mean, mommy gets a little upset.  I mean Mommy Goes Kray-Kray! Of course once I do that, I feel HORRIBLE and shame myself about being a bad mother.

Do ever explode and blame others and then later shame yourself?

I just love how Lysa describes emotions and relationships as being like nailing Jell-O to the wall–complicated and messy.

When things are complicated and messy it is hard to see God at work.  When we get in an exploding mind frame, Lysa challenges us to get quiet so that we can see what God is doing and then do what HEwants us to do.

To further explain the getting “quiet” concept Lysa referred to the following scriptures:

1 Peter 5:6-7 Humble yourselves, therefore, under God’s mighty hand, that he may lift you up in due time.  Cast all your anxiety on him because he cares for you.

Humbling myself means that I may NOT need to respond right away. Ooooh, not responding right away is HARD and sometimes makes me feel like a wimp.  But the Word promises that when we humble ourselves HE will lift us up in due time. Getting quiet doesn’t mean we don’t discuss our feelings, it just means that we talk to God about the unglued situation FIRST! (Ouch)

1 Peter 5:8 Be alert and of sober mind. Your enemy the devil prowls around like a roaring lion looking for someone to devour.

When we get quiet, we realize that the person or people who are getting on our nerves are NOT the enemy.  Satan is our enemy.

1Peter 5:10 And the God of all grace, who called you to his eternal glory in Christ, after you have suffered a little while, will himself restore you and make you strong, firm and steadfast.

And that Divas is our promise.  God can use our conflicts for our good. 

Getting quiet before we explode gives perspective, identifies the REAL enemy, and as Lysa put it “frees us from the pressure to make everything turn out rosy”. WOW!

Dear God,

Thank you so much for allowing me the opportunity to learn about how to control my emotions YOUR way.  Lord, stretch my mind and my feelings so I can embrace people who “dance on my happy” with grace.  Remind me Oh Lord to get quiet and seek instructions from YOU BEFORE I explode.   You never said this life would be without troubles.  In fact, your Word says that WHEN troubles come they should be an opportunity for joy.  Help me live out my God-created identity and be a light to the world.

What can you say or do to remember to get quiet BEFORE you react this week?

The Homework for next week is to read Chapter 6.

Looking for more discussion on this bible study? Head on over to Melissa Taylor’s Blog

What Kind of Unglued am I?–Unglued Bible Study Chapter 4

Hello Divas!  Is is just me or are there just TONS of opportunities to come unglued these days?  We had a great discussion on last Saturday talking about the labels that other people place on us or that we place on ourselves.

I just love the way Lysa Terkerust (the author of our study) summed it all up:  “God doesn’t allow the unglued moments of our lives to happen so we’ll label ourselves and stay stuck.  He allows the unglued moments to make us aware of the chiseling that needs to be done.”  AMEN!

At the end of our time together, Lysa challenged us to practice pausing and whispering “Let God Chisel” before reacting to difficult situations.  How is that working out for you?

In chapter 4, Lysa discussed the ways we come unglued. We either 1) explode  by loudly or forcefully expressing our feelings or 2) stuff everything deep down inside and pretend to be “fine”.  Lysa went on to describe actual subcategories of exploding and stuffing.

The four categories of unglued reactions are:

  • Exploders who shame themselves (Yell first, feel horrible later)
  • Exploders who blame others (Yell and then blame the other person for your behavior)
  • Stuffers who build barriers (Say everything is fine but then get distant)
  • Stuffers who collect retaliation rocks ( Silent record keeping of every wrong doing only to be brought up later)

Call me crazy but depending on my audience, I can react in all of these ways.  Don’t let someone close to me like my husband or children dance on one of my nerves, I can explode and blame, stuff and build a barrier while collecting my retaliation rocks, and shame myself for it ALL  in record time.

The point is to have something Lysa calls “Soul Integrity”.  “Soul Integrity is honesty that is godly.  Soul Integrity brings balance to unglued situations.  It makes us true peacemakers–people who aren’t stuffing or exploding but rather honestly demonstrating what they are experiencing in a godly manner.

A passage in the book of James speaks about Soul Integrity:

James 3: 13-15, 17

Who is wise and understanding among you? Let them show it by their good life, by deeds done in the humility that comes from wisdom. 14 But if you harbor bitter envy and selfish ambition in your hearts, do not boast about it or deny the truth. 15 Such “wisdom” does not come down from heaven but is earthly, unspiritual, demonic….But the wisdom that comes from heaven is first of all pure; then peace-loving, considerate, submissive, full of mercy and good fruit, impartial and sincere.

How can you respond in ways that are: considerate, submissive, impartial, full of mercy and sincere this week?

Homework:  Read Chapters 4, 5 and 6 before our next study time together (October 20, 2012)

Five Minute Friday-Grasp

Five Minute FridayEvery Friday, Lisa Jo Baker hosts a blog link up called Five Minute Fridays. She provides a word prompt and then participants are to set their timers for five minutes and write until the timer goes off. The word for today is GRASP. Happy Friday Divas and here goes:

Every time God blesses me with the opportunity to stand on the stage and lead my Dance Fit Divas, I am so thankful.  I actually find the concept of women from all different ages, stages, shapes and races coming together to exercise and encourage each other very difficult to GRASP. 

The community of women that God has built through our class is so ah-mazing and a breath of  fresh air.

One of the most fulfilling compliments that people give about our class is that the class members are so nice and that people feel welcomed.  It just makes my heart sing to watch some of the divas who have been attending for a while offer their toning sticks or jingle skirts to a newbie.  Being new and feeling ignored by clicky people can make you GRASP desperately for feelings of insecurity (yes even as adult women).

Maya Angelou wisely said:  I’ve learned that people will forget what you said, people will forget what you did, but people will never forget how you made them feel.” 

Some times just getting to class is about all a lady can do.  Getting a smile, encouraging words, and a good ol’ dancing sweat fest while in class is sometimes just enough to help her GRASP the frayed ends of her nerves.

 In Jesus’ final message to His disciples, He said, “You shall be witnesses to Me in Jerusalem, and in all Judea and Samaria, and to the end of the earth” (Acts 1:8).

Each of us has the opportunity to take the gospel to people in our “end of the earth.” “ –Bill Crowder

No matter where you are, you can smile, say hello, genuinely listen, pray, and meet the need of someone else.

Remember, we do NOT have class this Saturday!  However, join us next week.  See the calendar HERE.

Coming Unglued is an Opportunity to Choose!

We had an ah-mazing bible study on Saturday! Sixteen beautiful women came together, studied God’s Word and shared about our own experiences with coming Unglued. One wonderful thought that has stuck with me from our last study is that when we feel ourselves coming unglued, our feelings are reminders or indicators that we need to choose whose side we are on. Are we all about ourselves and our comfort, or are we for God?

During our discussion on Saturday, we focused on Joshua 5:13-14(NLT).

When Joshua was near the town of Jericho, he looked up and saw a man standing in front of him with sword in hand. Joshua went up to him and demanded, “Are you friend or foe?” “Neither one,” he replied. “I am the commander of the Lord’s army.” At this, Joshua fell with his face to the ground in reverence. “I am at your command,” Joshua said. “What do you want your servant to do?”

Just before becoming completely unglued about a work situation, bills, something that someone has done to us or an interruption in our schedules, we have an opportunity to choose God’s side by submitting to HIM right then. We can ask God what HE wants us to do BEFORE we do what we want to do in the moment.

When I come unglued, I fly into action to “fix” the situation. Stopping to choose a side is the last thing on my mind.  In the Unglued Participant’s Guide, Lysa gave us some action steps on how to “stay on God’s side”.

1.  Use Truth–What is REALLY true about the situation or person.  There are so many outside influences that sometimes getting a little truth about the matter is a really wise thing to do.  Remember, our perception may NOT be the reality.

2.  Use self-control.  I can only control KATINA! In Unglued situations, I often behave in ways to control the other person or the outcome: pouting, yelling, sulking, silent treatment, etc…)  As Lysa says, “Our feelings are indicators NOT dictators”.

3.  Use prayer–Pray for the person who is getting on your last nerve!  I think it is only natural to pray for the resolution of a situation that has us unglued. The only issue with that  is what if the situation does not resolve?

In addition to praying for resolution, I think we should also pray to be able to see God at work in our situation.  Andy Stanley brought out this point in his sermon on The Five Things That Grow Your Faith (Pivotal Circumstances):

Often times, what shapes our response to these pivotal circumstances (Unglued moments) is the support that we have around us during these experiences. Is there a community? . . . Are there providential relationships? . . . that help us frame these circumstances in a way for us to see that God is not doing something to us, but is doing something in us and through us.”

Divas, I believe that we are that community of support for each other.  I can’t wait to learn more about our imperfect progress in resisting becoming Unglued!

Need info about our Unglued bible Study?  Go HERE

Homework for this week:

1. Complete the session 1 worksheets in the participants guide.

2.  Read chapters 1 and 2 before our next study ( 10/6/12).

3  If you do NOT have the participants guide:

Read John 8:10-11–Write down your thoughts.

Think about any changes that you would like to experience in dealing with your “unglued moments” and make some goals for your new normal. (Write them down!)

Here is one of my goals:

I would like for it to be normal for me to speak softly when my children get on my nerves.  (Remember, Imperfect Progress!)