Hello Divas! We have been really learning some things about ourselves with this Unglued study haven’t we? In chapter nine, Lysa talks about the elephant in the room…jealousy.
I don’t like to think of myself as a jealous person. But honestly, it is hard to see other people get something that I really want but don’t have yet. On one of my CRAZY weeks, I had “work” to do at work that I really did not want to do. My nose started running, so I took Benadryl and had “medicine head”. I had been screaming and rushing around to get out of the door in the mornings and I had to start planning for a Zumba® event. (Y’all know all of that was a recipe for an UNGLUED MOMENT!)
Anywho, during the planning, I began to feel a pang of frustration. One of the other instructors helping with the event has her own fitness company. As I tried to complete the work I did not want to do at my regular job, my mind started to turn cart wheels. “Must be nice to do what you love ALL the time AND make tons of money”. “Why can’t I do what I love AND make money?” Then I really took a dive into the sea of green. I began to reflect on closing my party business and the dealing with the debt from doing what I was passionate about. Then, just looking at her email address made me very depressed.
The more I compared myself to the other instructor, the more lethargic and empty I felt. Empty women come unglued.
Do you EVER compare your self to others?
In chapter nine, Lysa gave two simple action steps to deal with jealousy and comparing ourselves to others and I added a third:
1. Focus on your own responsibilities and actions.
Galatians 6:4-5 (NIV) Each one should test their own actions. Then they can take pride in themselves alone without comparing themselves to someone else, for each one should carry their own load.
2. Carry some love to others. Find a way to be a blessing to someone else. When you change your focus away from yourself, all of a sudden your self-image improves. You get to experience the feeling of satisfaction that only comes when you’re a blessing to someone else.
3. Have an attitude of gratitude. An attitude of gratitude in all things helps bring joy to our lives.
How can you be a woman full of joy instead of an Empty woman this week?
Homework for this week’s bible study meeting–Chapters 9 & 10